This will be the last post in this blog.

Dear Passerby,

This will be the last post in this blog.

It is extremely difficult for me to make this last post. I am not Sabitha as you know her. I am her husband. Sabitha passed away two months after her last post in this blog. On a Thursday afternoon, December 17, 2009.

Today it will be almost one year and 2 months since she left Annie and me. She had severe left ventricle dysfunction. To be specific, she left us fighting Post Partum Cardio Mayopathy, a very rare condition that follows delivery. She was treated in Dubai, Sharjah and also in India. She was a very brave woman and a wonderful partner.

Life goes on one day at a time. Annie is growing up big and strong. She looks and smiles like her mother. As I promised Sabitha, I love her for both of us.

Only recently I could log into this account, for I was not aware of her password. I tried some possible combinations from my memory and it worked. Dear readers, thank you all for being part of her life. She always loved to write and share information.

Today, two days before what could have been our third valentines day, I am posting this. Her memories now make me smile, the places we went, the memories we shared…I still miss her soft grip on my hands.

God bless everyone.

Thanking you again,

Denis Eugene Arackal

Saturday, February 12, 2011.

Emergency trip to Kerala…

We are travelling to Kerala tomorrow. It’s been more than a week since I’ve slept hardly for an hour soundly! The moment my head touches my double decker pillows, I struggle for breath and starts coughing like there’s no end to it… I consulted with my Cardiologist at Zulekha, Dr. Pai and he suggested me to go to Kerala at the earliest to get admitted at Amritha Hospital, Kochi for the Dobutamine infusion and parallel consultation with the Pulmonologist there. We will be gone for around 20 days and the only thing that really troubles me is leaving my 3 month old daughter behind in Sharjah with my parents. Even though they treat her like a Princess, I’m sure we would greatly miss her captivating smiles, giggles and acrobatics sessions! I hope to get back soon well enough to hold my little one and watch her smiles n gurgles…

What a combo!

I always used to wonder why people tie their heads tightly and act like mad cats while they are having migraine attacks. Both my parents had migraine attacks and I used to fear going near them during those times as a child. How come my sweet Papa who spoils me rotten with love behave like a maniac and my mom acts like she has been taken by the storm!! Now I know… First of all, the strong medication taken for my PPCM was making me weak day by day and thanks to genetics, I have a great combo to add to this malady – migraine!! How I wish I could just melt and vanish in that one hour of extreme pain and anguish… The puking that follows leaves me completely drained that the very thought of food gives me repulsion! My fav Pastas, lasagnes, biriyani, kappa & beef, chicken hakka noodles(the list goes on since I’m a confirmed foodie!) do not come anywhere near the bottom of my mind!!! As usual, my friends n husband gives me the courage to go on.

Friends for a lifetime…

friends

Some friendships are like that… You may not talk to your friend on a regular basis, may not even know the major happenings in their lives, but once in a while when you both are in touch, you don’t feel any distance at all. The happiness knows no bounds when we get in touch with them, feel at ease with them inspite of the long gap in communication. I just spoke to my long time pal, Manoj after a long time today. It felt so good simply calling him names and shouting at him for not keeping in touch! We both know that underlying all these mock anger and fights, there is the deep rooted friendship waiting to be rediscovered… Hats off to such long standing friendships and moments which would last a lifetime…

Leave judgement to GOD!

Don’t judge others, leave judgement to God! You may not know the complete truth, only the person being subjected to the judgement and God alone knows what is the TRUTH… Many a times in life we get subjected to people’s criticism at some point or the other, some of us may take it with the chin up, some may be broken like there’s no repair, yet some others may go on as if nothing has happened. Very often, women are the scapegoats since they are easily misunderstood as emotional beings!  We are all not of the same make, each one of us is unique and wonderfully made to perform at our best at all times. But, at times, due the circumstances that we have been brought up, our life’s experiences, our family’s influence, our educational background or any other external factor, we may not always be at our best demeanor. Accept this and keep this in mind before you feel like judging anybody next time! Peace be to the world!!

Feeling quite uneasy and tired for the p…

Feeling quite uneasy and tired for the past two days… It is during these times that I realize completely that I am a PPCM patient. My days are all the same – very monotonous… Now that Paru & Ajith has brought be some books to read, I don’t feel loneliness very often. They have been a great support through out, I don’t know what I would have done without the emotional and mental support from my friends, well wishers, my parents, sis and my hubby. My little girl, Annie is also trying to entertain me with her giggles and frequent aerobics practice these days. I just love to see her smiling and moving her lips in her sleep. She is definitely worth all the pain I am going through now… We have tentatively decided to conduct her baptism by the last week of Nov., I am just waiting for that day… Thanks to my blog, I am able to give vent to my feelings and thoughts! It is Denis’ birthday this friday, we will have a small celebration with a cake and some kappa and fish curry for lunch. Hope to make it a memorable day for him, my adorable darling…

Checking out http://www.amothersheart.or…

Checking out http://www.amothersheart.org/members for more info and help for PPCM.

Untimely deaths…

heart attack death

I was shell shocked!!! How is it possible? They were so much in love, got married inspite of the differences in caste and it’s been only a few years since they started their journey together… How can God be so unjust? Why didn’t he foresee the tears flowing down her cheeks like a river? She was so inconsolable and in grief that nobody dared to bring up his name in her presence. He died out of heart attack few days back and he was only 30!!! I remember seeing him once when he came to office to pick her up after her work. They looked so happy together and very much in love… But, now he is no more, what is left is only the ashes and memories he has left behind… While I was working in Technopark, I heard many such incidents where young men in their prime passed away due to heart attacks, mostly men working in IT companies. They all led posh lives and had all the money in the world for their world trips and hi-fi lifestyle. Many of them spent most of their time at their workstations and were like guests in their own homes… Work stress is the major villain behind most of these untimely deaths. It’s high time you realized there’s more to life than money. Money can’t buy you happiness, love or peace or the joy of seeing your baby crooning and flashing her captivating smile which will light up your world for sure… It is sad many of the youth are after the rat race of making money and leading a peppy lifestyle than enjoying the little things in life which mean the most and gives the greatest happiness. My heart felt condolensces, my dear friend. May the good Lord give you the strength to carry on!

An instance of spite!

I have known her when I was working in a company in Kerala . She was a bright girl, very chirpy and got on well with amost everyone at office. She started off in a junior position at the PR dept. and went on to become the HR manager – thought this title was not given to her- in 4 years time. When I heard this, I was quite surprised because she did not have a degree in Management, let alone the experience for it! People had many stories, but I couldn’t believe it coz from my experience and interactions with her, she didn’t come across as that type… But sadly a blog was started in her name to malign her, this was what instigated my anger. No matter what the reason or spite you have towards a person, nobody has the rights to use somebody else’s identity to take out their nasty revenge! Be man enough or woman enough to confront problems rather than resorting to such cheap tricks!!

http://www.techgoss.com/Story/1719S14-Technopark-arrest-theory.aspx

Technopark company ex-CEO arrested for harassment
By Shalini Singh

UK-based Alamy claims to hold the largest and most comprehensive online collection of commercial photography in the world. Established in 1999, Alamy pioneered the concept of an unedited collection and sells images taken by thousands of photographers and photo agencies. Its ex-CEO operating from Technopark, Kerala had left in a hurry and in unclear circumstances.

The Board and senior management in UK have never given a proper explanation to the Alamy workers at Technopark as to why the CEO, Anil Thricovil, suddenly stopped attending office.

Earlier, Techgoss had reported exclusively that Anil has been ‘let go’ because a person in the Alamy HR Department had leveled allegations of harassment against him. After techgoss ran the article, an unidentified person posing as an Alamy employee emailed me saying Anil Thricovil has no differences with the HR Department. Techgoss doubled checked with the person from the HR Department who flatly denied sending the email.  The email sent to techgoss was a fake and designed to stop our investigation.

Now, Anil Thricovil has been arrested by the Trivandrum Police.  The police arrested him in the evening of July 27 for harassing a woman employee of a company in Technopark through phone and emails. Anil, who is a resident of a posh colony in the city, has no full time job since his exit from Alamy. A police team lead by the Circle Inspector of the Museum Police Station in the city raided his house at 830 pm; arrested Anil and confiscated his computer. Anil had been calling the woman from the city for three months.  According to the police, Emails sent by him were traced to Net cafes near General Hospital and Engineering College. The Hitech Cyber Crime cell had traced the phone calls and e-mails.

Eid in Dubai…

Eid Mubarak!

This year I look forward to the Eid celebrations and holidays for a special reason. Starting Eid holidays, my daughter, Annie will start staying with us. All these months since she was a born – apart from the days at the hospital and few days at our home-she was staying with my parents. My Doc has instructed me to take complete bed rest until December to get my heart problem cured for good. I am only allowed to care for my daugher on my bed and while resting in a sitting position.  Luckily for us, we managed to get a maid who agreed to stay with us until 7pm starting Eid. I am really looking forward to the day that embarks Eid this year so badly!

I am reminded of the Eids celebrated in UAE during the days of His Highness Sheikh Rashid and Sheikh Nahayan with awe and nostalgia..Long live the memories of these two great men who changed the history of UAE and marked the beginning of Dubai and UAE as it is today in all its glory!

For those of you who do not know much about Eid, here’s a brief info below:

“Eid ul-Fitr is the most celebrated festival for the Muslims from all over the world, including Dubai. Fitr means to break and it signifies the breaking of the fasting period and of all evil or bad habits.

Eid ul-Fitr marks the end of the month of Ramadan, celebrated upon the sighting of the new moon on the first of Shawal in Islamic calendar. It signifies the end of the month of fasting. The holy Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) celebrated the first Eid ul-Fitr with his companions after a victory in the Battle of Badr.

Eid ul-Fitr is a day of happiness and festivity. It is a day when Muslims from all over the world indulge in a humble joy. It is a wholesome celebration of a remarkable achievement of the individual Muslim in the service of Allah. The Eid day starts with the Eid prayer. The Eid prayer is very important for all Muslims, as it congregates Muslims at one centre, taking place at mosques or open areas like fields or squares.

On the Eid day people dress up in new clothes or in their best clothes to attend the Eid prayer. The giving of a special charity called Fitrana for this occasion is obligatory for every capable Muslim. On this special occasion of happiness and joy, people in Dubai visit friends and relatives and exchange gifts. They greet each other by saying Eid Mubarak or a blessed ‘Eid.

Eid is an occasion of ultimate joy particularly for children. They celebrate it with complete enthusiasm and frivolity. Children are given gifts or money by their parents and relatives, and get to eat a lot of sweets.

The Eid ul-Fitr is an exclusive celebration for Muslims, first it contains the spiritual and moral elements, and secondly it comes after an entire month of “absolute” fasting during the days of a month. The conception of Eid in Islam is not confined only to celebration, excessiveness and over-spending, lavish feasts, friendly handshakes and embraces; it is much more than that. Eid is a humble festival, like other Muslim festivals and occasions, it has a modest indulgence and stoical pleasures. The Muslims should rather devote this day to the worship of Allah Subhan Wa T’allah and should plead Him to approve their good deeds and forgive them for their sins. On this day the doors of God’s pardon are kept open His Blessings are plentiful.”

**Coutesy : gowealthy.com

Eid Mubarak to all my friends n well wishers! 🙂